The past year of my life has been filled with major, life-altering changes; And from conversations with those around me, it seems to be the norm of 2015. Everything from emotional and mental changes to physical changes within romance, work and little daily rituals (like the yoga class I always go to) has shifted. There have been some sad circumstances with loss and financial hardship, but for the most part, everything is shifting into a progressive, positive light. With that being said, change is hard. The good and the bad, it’s hard. All of these complaints, questions of self-doubt, anxiousness, and even extreme joy, come to the surface. Am I ready for this? I change my mind. I don’t want to do that. What if I hate it? What if it doesn’t work? After months of tears, and laugher, [the following] has brought me peace:
There are hundreds of coulda, woulda, shoulda’s that you can muster up in your head, but the only constant truths that matter are your reality and your desires.
The truth is, any major change in life – good or bad, voluntary or involuntary – is our reality. It’s happening. The thing to think about is your desire: What kind of life do you want to live? How do you want to feel everyday? Assuming you’re still reading this article, you want be happy, healthy, ambitious and grateful. Here are 5 healthful steps, from me to you, on how to cope with drastic change:
- FEEL | When we go through major life changes it often brings up every emotion all at once. Fear, excitement, sadness, anxiety, doubt, happiness… the list goes on. It’s common to try and mask our emotions and float through transitions like nothing is happening, like we’re just putting one foot in front of the other and slowly grazing the ground. But one of the most important things to do when going through times like this, is to let yourself feel everything you need to. CRY. LAUGH. SCREAM. Do it all, and don’t apologize.
- SEEK SUPPORT | If you have the “I can do it all” attitude, all of the time, situations like this can really set you back. Being independent is an incredible quality, but knowing when to sit back and relax is admirable as well. Talk to your friends and family about what’s going on, and how you’re feeling. Often times, the words that come out of our own mouths – just by talking about situations out loud – answer our own questions.
- CONTINUE REGULARLY SCHEDULED PROGRAMMING | What do I mean by this? Do you dedicate your mornings to yoga and your evenings to experimenting in the kitchen? Don’t stop because you’re in an emotional rut. These “small” acts might possibly be the only thing constant during these days, these weeks; keep a strong sense of who you are, and what you truly love.
- MEDITATE | If meditation has always been intimidating to you and you have yet to ‘connect with your spiritual side’, let this chaotic time help you start. This doesn’t mean you have to sit in a beautiful location with mala beads and hum chants until you reach a state of enlightenment. Sitting in silence with eyes closed, for merely 15 minutes per day, can change your whole life. It can help you connect to yourself mentally, therefore help you cope with all of the new emotions and thought processes that are coming up. There are a number of meditation apps that can guide you through, as well.
- PRATIPAKSHA BHAVANAM | “When disturbed by negative thoughts, opposite thoughts should be thought of.” -Yoga Sutras. Basically, think positive. When you feel emotions of insecurity, anger and sadness – feel that, understand that – and then bring to light the positivity that can come out of the new situation you’re in. This is truly the shining light in coping with change – without acceptance, it’s nearly impossible.
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Onesie | Electric & Rose